Am I not fat enough, Am I not Skinny enough

It is time that Body Shaming and Judging must be put to a Stop.

I strongly believe a Healthy Lifestyle is more than the Physical appearance. People must stop their Ignorance. 

There are people out there who are facing real challenges. People who are trying to live a Healthy Lifestyle but get put down by being judged by their body image. Believe it or not, it happens.

My experience

I can’t believe how people is telling me “but you’ve never been fat” uhm… Really?? What’s your idea of a Healthy Body? Yes, that’s my question.

So me being skinny or thin makes me healthy???

There are so many misconceptions about a fit and healthy body. Skinny don’t mean Healthy, Big Build don’t mean Unhealthy or Unfit. When you are over weight you definitely need to make a change but it need to come from you, it need to come from deep inside. To really love and care for yourself is a big step in anyone’s life. To not do it for others but Yourself.

Here is pic of me being skinny and not so Healthy, where I still focused on being skinny and what’s considered “sexy” the year 2013.


I’ve lost weight and just gained again, because I did not understand Healthy fully.

Here is 2014 where I gained again. Losing and gaining a vicious cycle. I realised I am fighting a losing battle. 

2014 Weight Gain

I decided to make a change, to start within me. I decided to not do it for people but myself.

Today I can truly say I am happy and healthy. It is still tough, the journey is long and challenging. With Social Media influence on people too. The people focus so much on the physical appearance.

My goal is to win as many people as I can over to focus on their Health without having to worry about their looks.

Having a lean and fit body is awesome and it just shows what hard work and dedication does. So I salute those who are achieving their fitness goals.

People must also understand there are many different Fitness Concepts. So if you are focusing on General Fitness don’t compare yourself with a Bodybuilder or Personal Trainer. Some people chose Fitness As their careers. So Don’t Judge

Let’s focus on one self, stand together against obesity, body shaming/judging and most of all choose HEALTH







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Is it worth holding on…

I decided to befriend them. I made the choice.

In everything I do my whole entire life, they’ve been there for me. In fact, they still are. I can’t help to say or ask myself sometimes if it is worth holding on to them. When anxiety takes over, it’s to go to them because they are so Positive, so Strong. When I am in the dark hole it’s as if I do not want to see the light at the end. I just want to sit and stare at the darkness, punishing myself. Deep inside my friends will always reach out, not giving up on me because we are part of each other.

DETERMINATION

To keep trying, to keep pushing and not give up. No matter how tough it gets, to hold on and keep moving.

Well, I can’t help asking myself sometimes… Why don’t you just give up, stop being ambitious, be like some people who don’t live life but only exist.

But that’s not who I am, it’s not how and what I feel. I can remember from the day I could think and understand, I knew I want to mean something in life. I knew I can be more.

I’ve always had Determination by my side.

MOTIVATION

Mostly Self-motivation.

The ability to do, push and reach something without the influence of others. Yeah, that’s pretty much how it’s been my whole life. However, I must add that I do appreciate those who takes the time to motivate me, especially the ones who sometimes don’t realize it. Sometimes people just say or do something without realizing the impact they have in someone’s life.

I go nowhere without Motivation, it keeps me strong and remind me of my goals.

WILL-POWER

It comes with Determination. When I put my mind to something I stick to it. I know discipline comes with it, and yes, I can be well disciplined. I don’t like failing without trying, I will not set a goal and not reach it. Unless, unforseen circumstances arise and changes needs to be made. I can handle change but, not pushing through is not part of me.

COURAGE

Without Courage none of it is possible. Courage needs to eat, drink and sleep with me. In today’s life, Society, the people… I need Courage. It keeps me focused on what’s my needs, beliefs and priorities. It is not always easy, the struggle is real. But I know in my ♥ Heart, God gave me Courage.

FAITH 

As a child of God, I firmly believe he is by my side at all times. I know he got big plans for me. I just need to have faith, walk in his footsteps and not the world’s.

With Faith comes Wisdom. God wants what’s best for us, but he gave us Choice. If we are focused on the wrong things and don’t listen to the voice of God, we lack wisdom.

It can be hard sometimes. But I have Faith
My Health and Fitness journey is tuff but I love it. It made me a better person. I am a go getter, I am strong. Mentally, Physically, and Spiritually.

LET’S DO HEALTH

The Goal versus The End result

Fear = Doubt

It has been almost more than three weeks now. I got stuck again. I went into my corner of fear/doubt/negativity/disbelief

A corner I often visits, a corner I sometimes want to stay in for as long as I want to, knowing it is slowly damaging my inner self. But, it is easier to sit there than to get out and face the world, face the challenge, to stay Positive, to keep Believing and to learn from my Mistakes.

 I am a strong girl, a strong Believer, a Dreamer and an Achiever. I know with every challenge there will be obstacles and I know I can overcome it, but for the past three weeks it felt like I just wanted to not try anymore. I felt like giving up on ambition, to just Exist… Why oh Why? I started to not believe in myself anymore, I started to have more Doubt in myself.

And yet, the strong, courageous, determined girl deep inside of me did not give up. Through all the Fear and Doubt she just don’t give up on me.

The result vs the Goal

I came to realisation, my problem started when I decided to focus more on where I want to be rather than focusing on the Goal and the plan. I wanted the end result so badly, I lost complete focus. It lead to me not doing what I am suppose to in order to reach the end result. For example: my studies, registering my business, set up a business plan, do research, all of it stood still…

There is always Hope


I am glad I can admit when I am making mistakes. I wanted to write so many blog posts already, but because of the corner of self doubt I didn’t want to.

But here I am, not giving up.

The reason I chose Health and Fitness

 I will always say, I just love this Journey!!! The challenge is never ending, the temptations, the emotions, I can name so many. It is not only physical, it is mental and spiritual.

Finding yourself, that self love, innermost, the peace is just wonderful.

On bad days, taking a run or doing a workout at home do wonders. Instant change in moods and mindset. 

We also sometimes forget to pray, just pray..

I plan to make the most of my journey no matter what.

Yay to a Positive Lifestyle no matter What!

Keeping faith


We like to use those words a lot. The words “Have Faith”. We use it in times of discouragement, sadness, heartache, even in our days of joy and happiness.

Believing in something we cannot see, we’re not certain about but, we want or need it so badly we start Believing. I believe in Faith through God. It is not always easy but God always came through for me all my life. Jeremiah 29:11

I am facing negative  energies everyday at my workplace. It is so hard for me, it is three years now. Last year I almost resigned because of what people make me go through. I am already not happy because it’s not where I want to be, but it is helping financially. I am working towards my goal, the career I want. It is just sometimes I feel I am stuck at my day job, where if I had to be outside working harder and more productively towards my goal, success will be achieved.

I feel I am saying I have faith in God but, am I fooling myself? Inside of me I have this burning desire to just do what I need to do in order to reach my goals. I already prayed about it, God already answered me, but here I am… Stuck with doubt. 

So, yes I do sometimes question my faith. But, I am human. I sin everyday, I make mistakes and I repent. I ask for forgiveness and move forward to better myself as a true believer.

Everyday is a new day, new challenges, new everything.

I won’t give up, because Jesus will never give up on me.

Let’s Keep Faith

Valentine’s Day

Camps Bay

I wanted to share this post on Valentine’s day, but my week is quite busy. Well, it is the month of Love so I will be sharing it anyway.

My View

For some reason I do not like celebrating this day with gifts ect. I have a husband who literally makes each and everyday a day of love. He is so affectionate, kind, loving and Crazy Lol But he always makes sure I feel loved and cared for each and every day.

He knows I do not want him to buy me gifts on this day but, he still does…

I think I feel this way because he already do so much for me. He buy my clothes, shoes, make up, fitness magazines, cellulite creams, and on top of that he helps with Everything In the house. He is a awesome cook, yum yum I can’t get enough of his food. 

To wrap it all together, God blessed me with a great man.

I still can’t really say why I do not want to celebrate this day, and even though I am thankful for the gifts from him and my little boy, I still feel the same. PS: I got them gifts too…

So, my view… It’s a day of great memories and got a beautiful meaning to it. I do not dislike or hate it, I just don’t feel like celebrating it.

Appreciation

I am actually glad there are such days, because not everyone is blessed with a passionate, loving, romantic partner. So, these days will be the days they are looking forward to, as that’s the only time their partner will show affection.

I hope everyone will enjoy the month of love, and let’s try our Best to show how much we love each other each and everyday. Because life is so short, let’s share the love while we are still alive and together on earth.

Keep Well and Stay Awesome

Happy Child Happy Mom

Happy Not Spoiled

I will always do everything in my power to see that my son is Happy and feel loved.

Every choice I make, I always take in consideration how it will have an affect on my son and family. 

I so badly want to leave my job and start from scratch with my business, do my studies full time. But, I can’t. At the moment things are going well, we are doing good and improvement is there no matter how slow. So, in this circumstances of being unhappy at my job, I need to make things work around it. 

We live close to my Son’s school, I’ve changed my shift from 07:30 to 16:10 in order for me to take my son to school, not too early but 10minutes before school starts.

Since last week, we got a notice our lease are not renewed!!  Oh my hat!! As we on a house hunt or flat, I am getting more stressed and panick. The places either to far or too small. And through all if this I am just thinking of my lil boo 

Yes, sometimes change is good and needed. I do not believe in putting myself in unnecessary uncomfortable situations. I left our predicament in God’s hands, he always look after his children. We looked at a very nice house yesterday, in fact, Perfect. But the area is not what I am use to, I didn’t feel save outside but the inside awesome… Is it enough though?? I am not prepared to put ourselves in danger.

I remember one day we took a drive to Sea Point, taking our boy out for the day. For some reason my husband and I had a fight. He decided not to go anymore, and guess what this scared and fearful mom did.. She drove lol I did not know how or where, but I thought in my mind, I am not going to disappoint my child because two adults are being “stupid” (a word my son believe is swearing)

We get up early in the mornings, so that everything can go smoothly. We want our son to wake up with us kissing and singing him awake everyday. And it works. He go to school knowing his family is happy. When I discipline him, or help him right I always make him understand it’s because I love him, and I need him to understand when he is wrong and to accept being disciplined and learn from his mistakes.

Sometimes I feel I fail as a mommy in certain areas, but I make sure my child is happy, loved  and cared for.

My Mom

I love my mom however, we never had a very close relationship. I grew up at my grandparents. My mom and I use to fight alot when I was younger. I was always angry at her for not always being there for me. I never wanted kids because I was too afraid of making the same mistakes. But I’ve decided to learn from hers.

But as I grew older, I started to realise I can’t punish her for her mistakes. In her weaknesses she still tried, even if I felt she should’ve done more. She did good, she taught me to be a strong woman and to never want to be like the world. I am so grateful for what she did, what she could.

Today I can help her where I can, I prayed a lot about my grudge feelings and hurt. God helped me to overcome it. She us my mom and I will not change her for anything.

Let’s keep iur children happy, even when can’t give them anything. We can always give them Love. Let us not leave them with grudge feelings, hurt and pain. But let them always remember we tried our best.

Let’s Do Health!

Another blog about my fears as a Mom

On 11January I’ve shared a bit about my fears as a mommy. 


My son is settled in at School

After a long week of crying, feeling sad and worried, everything is doing quite well now. 

We are so Happy to see how grown up our little boy is. His teachers love him, in the mornings we can see how he tells them long stories hehehe(and that boy can talk). Other kids calling him by the name etc. 

I noticed he don’t really want to kiss me in the mornings, so I asked him why. And as always he had a good made up explanation and the very next day he gave me a big kiss to please me hahaha.

The kids must take extra clothing for oopses. And my 5yr old got a phobia to not “number2” anywhere but at home. That was my biggest fear, because it is a full day. I always tell my husband, he won’t be able to hold it so long. So well, Today… My husband fetched him then me. This little son of mine, got his pants on back to front and his under pants tucked into his pocket zipped close. He told us he had an accident, and everything is fine LOL

I am trying now to explain to him nicely, it is fine to tell your teacher to go to the loo. Yeah, that boy got some skills.

I love how he tells us in the morning not to be late, and at night my big boy sleeps at 20:00pm. When he was younger we struggled, he never liked going to bed on time. But now, it just happend naturally 🙂 

Parenting

I would love to say all parents love their kids to bits, but what I see and hear everyday is disgusting! Today I heard a mom asking her boy around 9yrs old, what did the girl around 2-3yrs say.. The boy answered: she want to be picked up The mom’s response: is she insane!

Omw! I will die if anyone speak like that to my son.

A week ago, my husband saw a nanny standing under a tree with a 3yr old boy, it was a hot day. She was drinking water while this poor boy was reaching out for it but she was seeing to her needs first. It kills me, if my husband had to tell me earlier I would’ve stopped and confronted her.

We as parents should love all kids even if it’s not our own. They need love, nurturing, care, empathy, guidance, discipline etc.

I love every second, minute, hour, day, night, of being a mom. Teaching my child, disciplining him, loving him, being crazy with him and just looking at him. How he grows everyday.

Everything I do, I first consider my family. That is what we as mothers do.

A Shout out to all wonderful moms out there, who is striving to be the best she can. Accepting  the mistakes and failures, by learning from it and moving forward.

Let’s Do Health 

FitFit Mom at Home

Fit mom, wife, part time student..

I just love this journey! 

It is not always easy, but when I started to take my dream more seriously last year January 2016, it was the Best decision ever! I decided to start a blog about how I make fitness possible at home, no fees, no time away from my family too. We are spending our whole time at work already, our kids are at schools. When we get home, food need to be prepared, homework of kids, homework of mom and dad. Why on earth would I still spend time away from them after hours. Yes, I do have alot of respect for the women going to gym, pilates or yoga classes. I salute all hardworking women who strives to a fit and healthy lifestyle. The extra time we have we need to spend it with our family, having fun together. I choose to spend as much time as possible with them.

Husband and Wife also need to make time for each other to keep the relationship Healthy. We also need to keep our relationship with God Healthy, and isn’t it just beautiful when the whole family do Health together.

How do I make time for my workouts

Photography: Brent Armstrong @JackMuller/DanieUys park
Photography: Brent Armstrong @Table Mountain
Photograhy: Brent Armstrong @Home

I just make time! Hehehe

It is still a challenge, because I started my studies recently. But that is where time management comes in.

Important factor is also the support from your family. You simply need to make it clear to them what your needs are, also take theirs in consideration and compromise. I share my fitness goals with them, I include them too. It took a little while for my husband, but he joined the gym, he also support my changes in food ect.

My love for parks

Photography: Brent Armstrong @Majikforest
Photography: Brent Armstrong @DanieUys/JackMuller park
Photographer: Brent Armstrong @Majikforest
Photography: Brent Armstrong @Majikforest
Photography: Brent Armstrong @Majikforest

I do my workouts at the parks close to me, or let me say the ones I like in Cape Town. Bonus point is the gym equipment at DanieUys/JackMuller Park. My son can ride his bike or play, we jog and walk through the park as a family, and of course mommy gets her daily workout in.

I got my Abs and almost fully toned body at Home 15minutes a day



It is all about consistency, know your limits. You also need to challenge yourself, exceed your expectations. It is possible to get fit at home, always remember to still get advice on body alignments and posture from professionals. You need to ensure you don’t hurt yourself, especially your spine.

But work towards your goals, follow what works for you and not others.

Let’s Do Health

21Days-Bread and Sugarfree Challenge, Mommy Fears, Staying Active

I decided to take the challenge of 21Days sugar and bread free. It is my 5th day and I swear I am getting withdrawal symptoms. The funniest thing is, I only drink one teaspoon of sugar in my tea and one and half in my coffee. I also do not eat a lot of sweets unless I really crave for a marshmallow or jelly tot.

Most people only stop the intake of sugar itself, but they forget about the juices they buy etc. Well I decided to cut out anything containing artificial sugars, maybe that’s why it feel so tuff. 

But I would like to inspire people to take the challenge because it is good. Eat the necessary fruits and veggies daily, and chew a sugar free gum when the craving hits.

The fearful mommy of a toddler

Today my son went to Preschool for the very first time. I shared a few days ago about the fears I have, and yes it is still there. However, I am a Believer and that’s why I pray about it. My son was so excited he couldn’t eat his porridge hehehe. He wanted to go to school yesterday already because he woke me up, telling me I must brush his teeth it’s school day. I admit I cried whole day, when we fetched him and I saw that happy face the tears just came.

But that’s the love of a mother 

Staying Active #Bloubergstrand and #Majikforest

I am doing so well with my fitness goals. I decided to go around my favourite places in Cape Town and share how I reach my fitness goals on my own. Yes I am a proud fit Mom and Wife at home. I’m glad to announce I got so far to inspire my husband too!

Fun at Majikforest Durbanville

It was such a nice day

Photo taken by: Brent Armstrong

Fears of a mommy

Today I decided to share the blogpost I wanted to share a while ago.

Firstly, I wish everyone a very happy 2017. We are blessed and should give thanks to God.

Indoors for 7days with sick toddler

My poor son was diagnosed with chickenpox last week. Luckily I saw it early enough so I guess it could’ve been worse.

I can’t remember having it as a child. I must say it is Horrible!! I would like to believe that all moms hate seeing their kids suffer. The fever Omw! I felt so weak.. The pox started in his head and mouth and all I could do is comfort him with my love. We had the best meds so Patience was all we needed. He couldn’t where any clothes, and I had to explain over and over why he must be naked. Worst of all is the nightmares, because he is using his imagination so wildly. He explains how the pox infiltrate his heart and brain, how they jump over his whole body exploding… Lol 

To get to the point..

My little boy is going to school for the first time in 9days. I am already terrified about that and then the Pox decided to visit over new years weekend.

I thought I was fine the day of the interview with the principal, but Not. Then the day we had the meeting with his future teacher, seeing all the other parents and kids made me feel good again. As a parent I always look at the environment, actions, the way they speak and the approach. Yes, this is my child’s future so I am judgy and picky. In today’s life we read and hear all the stories of bullying and other terrifying stuff. I know no matter where it is a possibility everywhere, but how high and low is the risk factors. I believe you can see it in the leaders. 

His first day..

I took my annual leave luckily for when my son go to school, because I know I am going to cry my eyes out everyday and i’ll be an emotional wreck. Questions I keep asking, how he will feel, will he make friends easily, will his teacher like him, so so many….

Every time he went to a new day care I was a wreck, but for some reason he was always loved at his schools(daycare). His classmates loved him so much, he is like the little comedian.

Today..

He is doing much better, no fever, he is eating well and the talking is again unstoppable. So his went to chemist today, and they say we can wash him now.. Aaaaah, again I do not want to because the pox not gone yet, and the doctor said no bathing.. Fearful mommy

So yes, I am walking with a knot in my throat and tummy. But he believes God always give him great powers, so my trust will be in God just like my little boy put his in God.